Jewelry has always carried meaning. For some, it is a rite of passage gift from family. For others, it is a quiet act of rebellion or a symbol of identity. But for many transgender people, jewelry also represents a step into a new way of seeing ourselves. If you did not grow up wearing much of it or avoided it altogether, trying on jewelry for the first time can feel like walking into a foreign world.
Recently, I found myself back in that world in a very unexpected way.
The Bracelet That Started It All
It began when I rediscovered a 14 kt gold bracelet tucked away in a drawer. It had been a gift from my parents back in high school, back when I did not feel comfortable wearing something that delicate but kept it anyway. The clasp had broken years ago, and I figured fixing it would be simple.
Cue my surprise when the jeweler quoted me nearly $200 just to repair the clasp. For context, that is about the same amount the entire bracelet is worth. I laughed, politely declined, and slipped it back into my pocket for the time being. But the moment sparked something: why not go look at what else is out there now?
The Mall as a Playground
So, off I went with a friend, wandering the mall like two teenagers cutting class for fun. We passed glittering displays of gold, silver, gem-encrusted treasures, and costume jewelry that shone just as brightly as the real thing. Some pieces screamed “luxury,” others were shamelessly fake, but every single one invited curiosity.
The whole time, we laughed, cracked jokes, and tried to outdo each other in spotting the most over-the-top designs. (Note: faux ruby the size of a golf ball, 10 out of 10 for drama, 0 out of 10 for wearability.)
Of course, the sales staff had one goal: close the deal. Instead of letting that pressure intimidate us, we leaned into it, asking questions, trying things on, and treating the shops like little pop-up fashion shows.
Why Trying On Matters
If you have read our earlier features on layering accessories, self-gifting meaningful pieces, or making bold statements, you already know the philosophy behind jewelry. But here is the truth: none of that theory matters until you actually try something on.
Jewelry exists in relationship with your body.
- A necklace can look dainty in the case but bold on your collarbone.
- Rings that sparkle under the glass might feel heavy or awkward once on your hand.
- Earrings you never thought you would wear can suddenly become “the” pair that makes your face light up.
Trying things on is not just shopping. It is experimenting with identity in motion.
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Tips for a Successful Try-On Ritual
So, if you are heading out for your own jewelry adventure, here are a few things to keep in mind:
- Go With a Friend if You Can: A supportive friend can turn what might feel nerve-wracking into pure fun. They will hype you up, give honest feedback, and help you laugh off any awkwardness.
- Do Not Be Afraid of Sales Staff: Yes, their job is to sell. But your job is to explore. Ask questions, touch pieces, and try them on without feeling obligated to buy. Confidence grows with practice.
- Start With Comfort: If you have never worn jewelry, start small. Stud earrings, a simple chain, or a thin band. You can always build up to more dramatic looks later.
- Play, Do Not Overthink: You do not have to commit. That necklace you only wear once? Still valid. That oversized ring you try on for five minutes? That is part of the journey.
- Remember: Jewelry Is About You: Forget the “rules” about gendered styles. If it makes you smile, it is the right piece.
Leaving Without Buying Still Counts
At the end of our mall trip, my friend and I did not leave with bags of sparkling treasure. What we did leave with was laughter, inside jokes about ridiculous price tags, and a renewed sense of confidence that jewelry is meant to be enjoyed, not feared.
That broken bracelet may still sit in its box, waiting for a repair that feels worth it. In a way, it already did its job: it got me out into the world, trying new things, and remembering that jewelry is not about perfection or price. It is about play, expression, and the joy of seeing yourself shine.
The Bottom Line
If you have been hesitant to dip your toes into jewelry, think of it not as a transaction but as a ritual. A chance to explore who you are in the reflection of a polished silver bangle or a sparkling gold chain.
And if you walk away empty-handed? That is still a win. Every try-on is one step closer to finding the piece that feels like you.
